The "Grateful Dead"
With Halloween past and Thanksgiving approaching this topic seems most appropriate. Halloween is the festival of the deal, a time for remembering with love, those who came before us. Thanksgiving is a time of appreciation and gratitude.
During a festival the purpose is celebration. This is the time of appreciation and gratitude. As your loved-ones who have passed looks on from non-physical, which do you think they would rather see: Your family happy to be remembering them so wonderfully and having a good time holding them in your thoughts and honoring them? Or looking sad and forgetting how to be happy. Which do you think? Which do you think those who have passed could come closer to and connect to? You must stay true to your happy nature.
A celebration, a festival, is an opportunity. It is an opportunity to remember and appreciate the cause for the celebration. If we are to feel bad about the cause of the celebration, we are only doing ourselves a strong disservice and we are not honoring our memories. There is no room for sadness. It has a place only to show you that you must get back to happy and that you have strayed from your path. But once you realize that it is very selfish to miss someone, then you will see how you are disconnecting yourself from where that spirit is. When you disconnect, you become very sad. That is your emotional guidance system telling you that you are going far in the wrong direction, away from your passed loved-one’s spirit. You can think about them, but thinking about how sad you are is not the same as thinking about them, and it is certainly not honoring them. Missing, or to miss, is feeling lack, missing something like a piece is gone and separate… as though something could ever possibly be separate and not whole. There is no reality of separateness. Your loved-one is there even after they have passed on, and the more sadness you feel, the further from them you feel you are. It is an illusion that you are not One. A delusion that you are missing a piece of you.
You say that you “can not believe he/she is gone” because he/she is not gone. In your heart you now this to be true. No one is gone because we in reality are all One. We can not separate.
To stop the celebrating will make it harder, don’t you think? How can you be in alignment with the spirit of celebration when you refuse to participate in the glory of it? Why not celebrate in happiness with your deceased loved-ones there, in spirit. Just because someone is not physical does not mean they do not exist. They do exist! God exists and expresses as all of us and through all of us. Our bodies are mere vessels. Beautiful they may be, but illusory vessels they are, meant to express Truth through it. The True Beauty. God IS. God is the Source and we are always with the source and we can not separate from our Source. When we live here physically we are more like asleep. God did not put us to sleep. God wants to wake us up! To wake us all up to remember we are One in God. We can live physically and know what we really are. How can this be sad? It is beautiful and exemplifies the beauty of how close your loved-one is to you.
Don’t push your loved-ones away with sadness. And yes you can push them, or anyone away with sadness. Look inside yourself for comfort and show the others how you’re deeply calm and happy. You will find others to be most comforting, then. When you are sad you attract sadness and sadness in others, likewise those who are happier will fall away from you. So bring them back with your design of happiness. Create it. Express God through you and celebrate. Be comforted and you’ll find others to become very comforting to you.